We Win or Lose with our Habits

Habits dominate our daily actions. Habits are actions we take without thinking. Some say 75% of our daily actions are habits. Mostly a Good Thing Where life is easy or we consistently succeed, we have good habits. Where we struggle or fail, we have bad habits. If you want to deliberately create habits, it helps to understand how specific situations or actions lead to and eventually trigger habits. Habits are Automatic — No thinking required How do we take action ..

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The Dunbar Number

Here's a factoid for you:  Brain capacity in social animals  depends on how much relationship information they need to manage.  "Relationship information" includes: remembering your cousin's names who is dating who whose kid is graduating, getting married, having a baby... who owes you $20 who supported you in a recent office conflict who helped you paint your house who visited you in the hospital who lied to you who lied to a coworker If you were a chimp, the ..

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Making Prioritizing a Priority

   While enjoying the power outage vacationing in Bayfield, WI over the July 4th holiday a few years ago, I was able to finish reading David Rock's book Your Brain at Work.  I first heard of Rock through his famous article The Neuroscience of Leadership. Rock got my attention in the book's opening "scene."  Emily is one of the book's two main characters.  She's in the first day of a new job after a major promotion.  Having arrived at work early, she sits down to prioritize her day, but finds ..

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Your Goal + Images + Your Brain =

About a decade ago, I trained with Maria Nemeth at her Academy Coaching for Excellence.  I still remember a class that went until almost 2:00 am one night.  Our assignment was to develop an important goal (or three?), write our goal statement and then scour through her collection of magazines hunting for images that resonated with our goal and with us. Amidst the scissors and glue sticks, the 40 participants sifted, cut and pasted our way to our collages.  Maria assured us that there was lots ..

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“If you’re willing to ask 1000 people, you can have anything” (including trust)

I'm told we can thank Byron Katie for the quote above.  Since my friend Steve Chandler is a big Katie fan, making requests is center stage on my daily dashboard.  To put this notion in context, consider that I once told a friend, I said "I don't ask others for much," to which my friend replied "you never ask anyone for anything." Those words landed with a thud.  It can't be a good thing to NEVER ask for anything1. Right? So I'm working on making one request each day.  One request, no big ..

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